Anonymous asked: I just started dating one of my close friends of about a year and half. We are going to different colleges which are about 12hrs apart. I'm having a hard time excepting that we will inevitably have to break up because of this. Can long distance work?
The only question you need to ask is this:
Sometime after you both graduate, is there a chance that you two will live in the same place?
If yes, then of course long distance relationships can work! Think of it like this: you spend four years dating long distance, then fifty years always together after you graduate. Four years is not a long time. And if you truly love each other, then no temporary distance should come between you two.
If you both are willing to make it work, then it will work. Once one or both stop trying, then and only then will it not work.
If you are worth it to him then he will make it work and vice versa. You wouldn’t want to date someone who didn’t think you were worth waiting for, right?
My friend and her boyfriend were in a long distance relationship for 3+ years. They were 8 hours apart, but they made it work. And now they are graduated, so distance is no longer an issue.
Long distance makes relationships either grow stronger or break because there wasn’t commitment. Long distance forces you to get to know each other on a personal level. You’ll fall more in love with personality, and you’ll know that he cares for you as much as you care for him.
If distance is the only issue in your relationship, you’ve got a pretty good thing going.
It’s up to both of you to make it work.